The only reason for marriage in a movie or a beautiful novel can be great, strong and pure love. In fact, the cause of marriage is often served by other, much more prosaic reasons. Very, very often it happens that a marriage made for these very reasons ends in a divorce in the first months. When is it not worth rushing to go down the aisle?
You can't be late there!
In the past, it was believed that at twenty years old the girl was on the verge of an "expiration date", and marriage was considered the norm even before the onset of age, which is now considered full age. For some reason, the installation of "getting married before the age of twenty" has been so firmly preserved in the minds of women that many matter reminds our daughters about it now. And daughters, where to go, blindly believe this - the mother will not advise bad things.
There are not so rare cases of the opposite situation, when a daughter, contrary to her early married mother, pulls with marriage to the last, which is also wrong.
Indeed, with age, the chances of having a strong family decline, but the peak does not fall at the end of the second ten.
From a biological point of view, the optimal age for marriage is from 25 to 30 years.
Ironically, it is precisely in this period that neither adherents of the old traditions nor those who violently oppose them fall into it. Do not rush to marry the first comer, the prospects for such a marriage do not need a description.
Don't take the chance
Another reason why a girl can accept the offers of the first comer is a banal fear that “there will be no second chance”, and the partner, having heard an indefinite answer or a request to wait, will immediately change his mind.
In such a situation, it turns out that the woman consciously chooses the role of the follower, and after a few months, when the love falls somewhat, the true shortcomings of the partner will begin to appear.
The outcome of this is almost always obvious - divorce.
The calculation may be incorrect
No less hopeless is the marriage for the sake of money. In fact, it’s impossible to buy sincere love, and everything else - which is really easy to buy - can just as easily be replaced.
It may happen that the missus will find for himself “for the same money” a replacement that is a little better, and will display the pragmatism characteristic of successful people.
Nevertheless, according to experts, marriage of convenience is far from the worst option. The main thing is to choose a partner correctly. It is one thing when a woman has a personal sympathy and respect for her future husband, and quite another - when a man simply buys her, who does not have any attachment to him.
However, for a man the difference in this situation is not always noticeable, but for a woman it is not easy to live in such conditions.
Mom got it, and husband is freedom?
Many young girls want to escape from their parental home as often as possible.
Paradoxically, now, when there are much more ways to do this than existed half a century ago, many girls for some reason prefer, say, a career, namely hasty marriage.
And, strangely enough, the family that the girls create at the same time almost always resembles a parent. As a result, it turns out that the feeling of a change in the situation is false, and soon, having not received satisfaction, the women themselves initiate the dissolution of the marriage.
Need a father
It often happens that the future husband is chosen on the principle of "a good father for children." In general, from the point of view of biology, this approach is absolutely natural.
But a marriage, as it should be natural, will justify its natural purpose and will soon fall apart - if a woman considers her husband only as the father of the unborn child, then, having fulfilled her biological function, she will soon leave the family. Or he will not leave, but he will hardly feel satisfaction from such a marriage, so divorce is not ruled out already at the initiative of her husband.
Better to be alone than with anyone
And finally, the most trivial reason is that the girl was simply tired of living alone.
The reason here is not even motivation, but a means - in such a situation, the girl again often rushes to the first person she meets, who does not always combine emotionally with her.
It is especially sad if both partners want to get rid of loneliness - then the so-called “passive marriage” can happen, in which both spouses are unhappy, but both are afraid to change something.
